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Facing Your Fears

Happy October and fall!  This month, my team and I are doing a team building exercise focusing on fears.  Facing them and overcoming them.  Fear is a very powerful emotion.  It is there to protect us from harm but if we allow it, it can be so crippling to the point where it does not allow us to grow or move forward. We wanted to learn more about each other’s fears and learn ways to overcome them. 

Fear might creep into our minds when we are given more responsibilities, when we experience uncertainty, or when we deal with daunting “unknowns.”  Whether starting a new job, searching for a new job or making step forward in your current position, being an employee can be scary and difficult. It entails making hard decisions and lots of them. But while it may overwhelm us, it sometimes can help us.

Fear is the mind’s way of telling us that danger is lurking ahead.  While it may be justified, it can halt imagination and choke ambition.  It can sometimes make simple or straightforward tasks seem insurmountable.  So how does one know the difference between an emotion that can protect us versus one that can paralyze us?

One way is to learn — let fear be a teacher.   When you face something that really scared the crap out of you, take note of the outcomes.  Was it as bad as you thought?  Did yougrow because of it?  Learn just like you do from mistakes.  Often, the fear fades once we face it. 

Another way is to enlist the help of experts to affirm or squash your fears.  People often think that courage means you have no fear. But I believe that taking action despite the fact that you have fears is a display of courage.  That being said, taking action is a lot easier said than done.  But, if you talk to other industry leaders, family members, or colleagues about your fears, they may see things differently than you. They may help you assess whether your fears are justified or blown out of proportion.

The final way is to see fear as advantageous, not a sign of weakness.  Fear is a perfectly natural reaction that can work to our advantage.  It is absolutely reasonable to feel some fear before accepting a job offer, negotiating a new contract, or changing your career path.  That emotion can prove helpful by tempering your own thought processes and preventing irrational decision-making. 


Don’t let fear become a burden or paralyze you from making things happen.  Think about your family, your supervisors and co-workers who count on you to get the job done and become courageous and smart. If we can help you face your fears this last quarter, please know we are here to help!

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